Men must learn how to show love

One of the most unspoken problems I commonly find when I'm counseling couples or women is how terrible men are at showing affection.

It's an underlying problem not often discussed. Women will confirm it if asked, men will usually deny it or go defensive about it. Typical reasons men give include "My wife knows I love her, I don't need to say it to her every day" and "If I go soft, she'll take advantage of me."

The truth is that most men either don't understand women at all or are completely patronizing of them.

If a man wants to be happy he has to make his wife happy. And to do that, he has to know her, understand her needs, and meet them.